{"id":1049,"date":"2016-10-16T16:32:39","date_gmt":"2016-10-16T16:32:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fumcschenectady.org\/blog\/2016\/10\/16\/how-not-to-treat-the-family-idols-based\/"},"modified":"2020-02-15T19:15:18","modified_gmt":"2020-02-15T19:15:18","slug":"how-not-to-treat-the-family-idols-based","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fumcschenectady.org\/blog\/2016\/10\/16\/how-not-to-treat-the-family-idols-based\/","title":{"rendered":"\u201cHow Not to Treat the Family Idols\u201d based on\u00a0Genesis 31:17-35"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\nThe<br \/>\ncharacters in this story don&rsquo;t emerge from a vacuum. \u00a0Their story has<br \/>\nbeen going on for quite a while by the time we get to this part of<br \/>\nGenesis. \u00a0Jacob, you may remember, was the second born of a set of<br \/>\ntwins who infuriated his brother by stealing both his brother&rsquo;s<br \/>\nbirthright and their father&rsquo;s final blessing. \u00a0In order to avoid<br \/>\nbeing murdered by his twin brother, and at their mother&rsquo;s advice, he<br \/>\nwent to live with her family.<\/p>\n<p>The<br \/>\nfirst person he encountered when he arrived was a beautiful woman at<br \/>\na well (which is Biblical foreshadowing for \u2026. marriage) who<br \/>\nhappened to be his cousin Rachel. \u00a0Her father Laban was his mother&rsquo;s<br \/>\nbrother. \u00a0This is not presented as an issue. \u00a0Jacob wants to marry<br \/>\nRachel, and Laban says he has to work for him for 7 years in order to<br \/>\npay off her bride-price. \u00a0So, besotted, Jacob does. \u00a0After seven<br \/>\nyears there is a wedding and a wedding night, and when he wakes up in<br \/>\nthe morning Jacob discovers that it is Rachel&rsquo;s sister Leah in his<br \/>\nbed. \u00a0He objects \u2013 rather strongly. \u00a0Laban comes up with some weak<br \/>\nexplanation about not being able to marry off the younger sister<br \/>\nfirst and then suggests that Jacob can marry Rachel too, if he&rsquo;ll<br \/>\nsimply spend one week with Leah first and agree to work for him for<br \/>\nanother 7 years.<\/p>\n<p>It<br \/>\nturns out, in case you couldn&rsquo;t figure this out yourself, that<br \/>\nsisters make super terrible sister wives. \u00a0I bet you were able to<br \/>\nfigure that out on your own though. \u00a0Leah and Rachel spent years<br \/>\ntrying to fight with each other for Jacob&rsquo;s attention, and that<br \/>\nincluded a fairly elongated \u201cbaby war\u201d in which each tried to<br \/>\noutdo the other in producing offspring for Jacob. \u00a0If you wanted to<br \/>\nknow, Leah won, although Rachel remained Jacob&rsquo;s favorite. \u00a0After the<br \/>\nnext 7 years of labor had been completed, Jacob made a deal with<br \/>\nLaban to stay on for a while longer in order to leave with some herds<br \/>\nof his own. \u00a0At that point both Laban and Jacob did everything they<br \/>\ncould to trick each other into getting the worst possible deal.<br \/>\nJacob was a trickster, Laban was a trickster, and neither of them<br \/>\ntreated each other well. \u00a0On the whole, Laban treated Jacob more<br \/>\nroughly than Jacob treated him. \u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Finally,<br \/>\nabout 21 years after arriving on his uncle&rsquo;s doorstep \u2013 and<br \/>\napparently while his uncle was as far from home as possible, Jacob<br \/>\npacked up his wives, his children, his herds, and his possessions and<br \/>\nheaded back home (uncertain about if his brother still wanted to kill<br \/>\nhim). \u00a0<\/p>\n<p>So<br \/>\nnow we&rsquo;re caught up \u2013 as long as we remember that when they packed<br \/>\neverything up to leave, Rachel took the family idols with them and<br \/>\nJacob didn&rsquo;t know about it. \u00a0 What were the family idols? \u00a0Well,<br \/>\nthey&rsquo;re also called the family gods. \u00a0They were physical<br \/>\nrepresentations of gods used in some sort of ritual worship, usually<br \/>\nat an at-home altar. \u00a0In addition to being items to which one<br \/>\ndirected one&rsquo;s prayers, they were also thought to protect the family<br \/>\nand its good fortune. \u00a0That is, if they were lost or stolen, it was<br \/>\nassumed that the LUCK of the family went with them. \u00a0While the Bible<br \/>\nsuggests that Jacob and Laban prospered because God was with Jacob,<br \/>\nRachel may not have shared that assumption.<\/p>\n<p>In<br \/>\nthe story that precedes this one in Genesis, Leah and Rachel discuss<br \/>\nhow their father cheated them by not giving them their portion of<br \/>\ntheir bride prices, and it is also possible that Rachel just took the<br \/>\nidols to counteract that, or to bother her father, or because she was<br \/>\nscared and wanted their protection, or maybe she was just greedy. \u00a0I<br \/>\ndo think, on the basis of the stories of Genesis and what they say<br \/>\nand what they don&rsquo;t say, that Laban was probably an abusive parent<br \/>\nand employer. \u00a0Furthermore, by the story Genesis tells, Jacob himself<br \/>\nisn&rsquo;t really converted to YHWH worship yet. \u00a0That will happen on this<br \/>\njourney back into the land, on the night when he is said to have<br \/>\n\u201cwrestled with an angel\u201d and gets renamed Israel. \u00a0It thus seems<br \/>\nunlikely that Jacob&rsquo;s wives would be monotheistic at this point, and<br \/>\nwhatever other reasons Rachel had for taking the household idols,<br \/>\nlikely she thought they&rsquo;d be a source of protection for their family.<\/p>\n<p>Laban<br \/>\nwas furious when he found out and he brought a war party with him to<br \/>\ngo after the family. \u00a0It isn&rsquo;t clear if he would have gone if it were<br \/>\nnot for the family idols, but it sort of sounds like he is most upset<br \/>\nabout the idols and not the loss of his children and grandchildren.<\/p>\n<p>The<br \/>\nstory gives us just enough geography to know that the place Jacob,<br \/>\nLeah, and Rachel were staying was INSIDE the boundaries of what would<br \/>\none day be ancient Israel. It was just far enough inside that the<br \/>\nplace Laban slept the night before he caught up with them was inside<br \/>\ntoo. \u00a0This is significant because it tells us this is both an OLD OLD<br \/>\nstory and one that got edited as they years went by. \u00a0In the early<br \/>\ndevelopment of understanding YHWH, there was a time when it was<br \/>\nassumed that YHWH&rsquo;s powers only existed within the boundaries of the<br \/>\nPromised Land. \u00a0Genesis tells us that Jacob had a dream involving a<br \/>\nmessage from God on his way out of the land, and Laban has one right<br \/>\nafter he crosses into it. \u00a0It is as if God is limited by those<br \/>\nboundaries. \u00a0The understanding of where the boundaries would BE<br \/>\nhowever was defined by political boundaries that existed centuries<br \/>\nlater, and the clues the text gives us imply those boundaries. \u00a0Isn&rsquo;t<br \/>\nthe Bible fun?<\/p>\n<p>OK.<br \/>\n So Laban has a dream in which he is warned not to speak harshly to<br \/>\nJacob which is most significant because it reminds us that people<br \/>\nused to think that God had boundaries. \u00a0Although, let&rsquo;s be honest.<br \/>\nPeople still think that. \u00a0It is remarkable how people think about<br \/>\nchurches and other places of worship as more \u201choly\u201d or more<br \/>\n\u201cfilled with God\u201d than other places. \u00a0When he does catch up with<br \/>\nthe next generation of his family, Jacob is HORRIFIED as his<br \/>\naccusations and responds with surety that no one has done what he is<br \/>\naccusing them of. \u00a0That is, Jacob thinks Laban is falsely accusing<br \/>\nthem \u2013 with good reason based on their history \u2013 and grandiosely<br \/>\noffers a death penalty for the one who has the idols because he is SO<br \/>\nSURE they don&rsquo;t have them.<\/p>\n<p>This<br \/>\nis a problem for Rachel. \u00a0Nothing of her motivation is explained in<br \/>\nthe text but it seems clear that she decided she didn&rsquo;t want to die.<br \/>\nShe thinks fast and she comes up with a plan, \u00a0she enacts it, and it<br \/>\nworks. \u00a0She lives, her father goes home, and all is well, except<br \/>\nmaybe for the idols. \u00a0The plan itself, however, is proof of how<br \/>\nlittle power she otherwise had. \u00a0She used what she had \u2013 her<br \/>\nfemininity and how it was treated in her culture \u2013 to save her own<br \/>\nhide.<\/p>\n<p>The<br \/>\nplan was super simple: she put the idols underneath her and she told<br \/>\nher father she was menstruating. \u00a0Was she? \u00a0That&rsquo;s completely unclear<br \/>\nand likely irrelevant. \u00a0However, she SAID she was. \u00a0By the customs of<br \/>\nthe time, no man shouldn&rsquo;t have been in her tent while she was<br \/>\nmenstruating, and he violated that cultural expectation by examining<br \/>\nthe rest of her tent. \u00a0He wasn&rsquo;t going to push any further though,<br \/>\nand he left. \u00a0By putting the idols underneath her AND coming up with<br \/>\na valid reason not to get up, Rachel saved her own life and got to<br \/>\nkeep the idols she&rsquo;d wanted to begin with. \u00a0She used what she had \u2013<br \/>\nfear of menstruating women and an assurance that no one would check<br \/>\nher on that \u2013 to subvert the power of her father.<\/p>\n<p>However,<br \/>\nshe also desecrated the idols. \u00a0It sort of doesn&rsquo;t matter if she<br \/>\nactually was menstruating on them or not, the implication is enough.<br \/>\nIt may be that this story has multiple intentions and denigrating the<br \/>\npower of idols is one of them. \u00a0By the time this story was written<br \/>\ndown the people knew the Ten Commandments, including the one about<br \/>\nnot making idols. \u00a0It was clear that YHWH was not to be represented<br \/>\nin physical form, and Walter Brueggemann says that this is so that<br \/>\npeople can&rsquo;t pick up the idol, move it around, put it where they want<br \/>\nit, and have the sense that they control YHWH. \u00a0YHWH is not a God who<br \/>\nis controlled by humans. \u00a0This story, which discusses menstruating on<br \/>\nidols seems like a very effective reminder to those who weren&rsquo;t YHWH<br \/>\nworshippers about the relative weakness of their gods. <\/p>\n<p>The<br \/>\nstory also functions as a story about the formation of the national<br \/>\nboundaries. \u00a0It claims that the Eastern boundary of Israel was first<br \/>\ncreated by a covenant between Laban and Jacob, and that as such it is<br \/>\nalmost inherent. \u00a0<\/p>\n<p>It<br \/>\nis also a good story \u2013 it keeps our attention pretty well. \u00a0Sadly<br \/>\nthough, this is the last interaction that Leah and Rachel have with<br \/>\ntheir father. \u00a0Rachel is left sitting alone in her tent while the<br \/>\ncovenant is formed and her father leaves again. \u00a0While Jacob and his<br \/>\nfamily are safe, and while Laban was likely an awful father, there is<br \/>\nsome lingering sadness at the end.<\/p>\n<p>The<br \/>\nbiggest clue in this story that something is WRONG isn&rsquo;t that Jacob<br \/>\ndecides to leave while Laban is far away, and no one in the household<br \/>\ntells Laban for THREE DAYS. \u00a0That would indicate they thought they<br \/>\nwere protecting the vulnerable from the one who was doing them harm.<br \/>\nJacob got Rachel and Leah, as well as his family, out of an unsafe<br \/>\nhome for them.<\/p>\n<p>Rachel<br \/>\ntried to take something with her for protection along the way, and it<br \/>\nbecame the excuse by which her father almost killed them all. \u00a0In<br \/>\nthat moment Laban sounds like an abusive partner who will kill their<br \/>\npartner rather than let them leave, and Laban&rsquo;s dream is the only<br \/>\nthing that held him back. \u00a0Rachel survived, and likely they ALL<br \/>\nsurvived, because of her quick thinking and willingness to use what<br \/>\nshe had.<\/p>\n<p>Many<br \/>\nwomen throughout history have been used and abused by powerful men.<br \/>\nFurthermore, many PEOPLE throughout history have been used and abused<br \/>\nby those with more power than they had. \u00a0Some, like Rachel, use<br \/>\neverything they have, everything in their power, every subversive<br \/>\naction in the world to get out. \u00a0Sometimes they succeed. \u00a0May God<br \/>\ncontinue to guide those who seek safety, and may those who need<br \/>\nsafety keep Rachel&rsquo;s wits about them! \u00a0Amen<\/p>\n<p>&ndash; <\/p>\n<p>Rev. Sara E. Baron<\/p>\n<p>First United Methodist Church of Schenectady<\/p>\n<p>603 State St. Schenectady, NY 12305<\/p>\n<p>Pronouns: she\/her\/hers<a href=\"http:\/\/fumcschenectady.org\/\">http:\/\/fumcschenectady.org\/<\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/FUMCSchenectady\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/FUMCSchenectady<\/a><\/p>\n<p>October 16. 2016<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The characters in this story don&rsquo;t emerge from a vacuum. \u00a0Their story has been going on for quite a while &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/fumcschenectady.org\/blog\/2016\/10\/16\/how-not-to-treat-the-family-idols-based\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">\u201cHow Not to Treat the Family Idols\u201d based on\u00a0Genesis 31:17-35<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[11],"tags":[38,33,861,860,858,75,865,866,859,862,857,863,144,56,864,856,831],"class_list":["post-1049","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-sermons","tag-progressive-christianity","tag-umc","tag-abusers","tag-dontmenstruateontheidols","tag-familyidols","tag-fumcschenectady","tag-genesis","tag-idols","tag-menstruation","tag-oppression","tag-rachel","tag-rachelswits","tag-revsaraebaron","tag-schenectady","tag-sisters-as-sister-wives","tag-subversivewomen","tag-thinkingchurch"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/fumcschenectady.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1049","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/fumcschenectady.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/fumcschenectady.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fumcschenectady.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fumcschenectady.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1049"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/fumcschenectady.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1049\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1256,"href":"https:\/\/fumcschenectady.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1049\/revisions\/1256"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/fumcschenectady.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1049"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fumcschenectady.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1049"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fumcschenectady.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1049"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}