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\u201cThe Fabled Wisdom of Solomon\u201d based on 1 Kings 2:10-12 and 3:3-14<\/h1>\n
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(Image: Lamp of Wisdom, Waterperry Gardens, Oxfordshire, England)<\/p>\n

What I wouldn’t give for the wisdom of Solomon right now. I’ve prayed for it already, lack of asking isn’t the issue. Life feels like a series of unanswerable questions. \u201cIs this safe?\u201d \u201cIs this wise?\u201d \u201cIs this fair?\u201d \u201cWho does this exclude?\u201d \u201cWhose needs does this meet?\u201d \u201cHow do I create balance?\u201d \u201cWhose needs do I prioritize?\u201d \u201cHow can I find a middle way?\u201d \u201cHow do I manage risk? As a person? As a parent? As a pastor?\u201d \u201cWhat are the risks of NOT doing the thing?\u201d \u201cHow do they compare to the risks of DOING the thing?\u201d \u201cHow worried should I be?\u201d \u201cHow courageous should I be?\u201d<\/p>\n

I’ll stop. It’s probably unpleasant to hear already, and truthfully those are MOST of the questions, they just repeat a lot. Furthermore, these are variations on the themes of everyone’s questions, maybe with a little bit more pressure on those making decisions for others or for groups.<\/p>\n

We’re nearing 18 months of pandemic based impossible decision making. I’m also nearing 15 months of parent based impossible decision making, which has led to SO MUCH more respect for every other human who parents or offers caregiving. (I already had respect for those things, but my respect has increased exponentially.)<\/p>\n

I find myself thinking about presidents who wear the same thing every day, or offload trivial decisions so that they can keep their capacities for the important stuff. I remember articles about how our decision making capacities are finite, and I think about how incredibly overwhelming it has been to be in this \u201cnew world\u201d where everything carries risk and every decision is suddenly BIGGER.<\/p>\n

And I want to be Solomon. I want to be blessed by God to be wise. I want God to give me \u201ca wise and discerning mind.\u201d I want to know what to do!!!!!!<\/p>\n

But even as I say this, I realize that I have projected onto Solomon and on to this blessing from God a supernatural sort of wisdom and discernment. I’ve read this story and assumed that Solomon always knew what to do, and was always right when he decided. But, I don’t actually BELIEVE that. That would be superhuman.<\/p>\n

(Also, if that were true, then the kingdom of Solomon likely would have outlasted \u2026 say \u2026 Solomon because he would have been able to fix the underlying issues and pick a good successor.)<\/p>\n

Which means that the Bible has just served as a very good inkblot test for me to realize that in the midst of incredible uncertainty, certainty would be superhuman. (Or dangerous. That’s another way this can go.) I yearn to feel good about decisions, but that’s not possible right now. I yearn to feel confident as I decide, but that isn’t possible right now either. I yearn, truthfully, to pass my authority off to someone wiser, more prepared, better read \u2013 but no one knows the struggles and the questions I face quite like I do, so there isn’t anyone to pass them to.<\/p>\n

John Wesley’s \u201cThree Simple Rules\u201d: \u201cFirst do no harm, then do all the good you can, and stay in love with God\u201d have never seemed so hard to work with!<\/p>\n

To keep the challenging more challenging, people judge each other on decisions. I can’t remember the last time I had a conversation that didn’t involve either 1. someone who had to make hard decisions struggling with what is right OR 2. someone who doesn’t have to make the decisions frustrated with those who made them. I hear clergy and bosses worrying over safety procedures, balancing risk tolerance with the will of the body with the needs of the vulnerable. And, at the same time, I hear others complaining on ALL sides.<\/p>\n

I’m definitely not Solomon, but I want to offer to all of you some of the models and tools I bring to discernment, under the assumption that we’re all bogged down by the weight of all these decisions. Welcome to a pragmatic sermon. \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n

In terms of the pandemic itself, I’ve been really grateful for an idea I heard put into words in the NY Times in June of 2020.<\/p>\n

Manage your exposure budget<\/p>\n

Risk is cumulative. Going forward, you\u2019ll need to make trade-offs, choosing activities that are most important to you (like seeing an aging parent) and skipping things that might matter less (an office going-away party). Think about managing virus risk just as you might manage a diet: If you want dessert, eat a little less for dinner.1<\/p>\n

During a pandemic, every member of the household should manage their own exposure budget. (Think Weight Watchers points for virus risk.) You spend very few budget points for low-risk choices like a once-a-week grocery trip or exercising outdoors. You spend more budget points when you attend an indoor dinner party, get a haircut or go to the office. You blow your budget completely if you spend time in a crowd.2<\/p>\n

This has been super helpful. I often call it the \u201crisk budget.\u201d We all have different risk tolerance, and we have different things we particularly value and need. I hear from many families with kids that day care or school are imperative to someone in the family’s well being, and so they do it. But then their risk budget is spent. I hear from others that going to work and being exposed to a whole lot of people is already an over extension of their risk budget, and they fear bringing something home to their kids, so they don’t do anything else.<\/p>\n

I’m mentioning this right now, because people without kids or other unvaccinated people in their households have had an increase in risk tolerance, and aren’t always seeing how carefully others have to manage their risk budget. And, for some in our community that means not coming to worship \u2013 even outside, even masked, even distanced \u2013 because even that TINY bit of increased exposure is more than the budget can handle.<\/p>\n

It isn’t really a FUN thing, a risk budget, but it brings a model to something otherwise incredibly overwhelming. Deciding on each individual activity separately is simply too much for any of us, so a budget gives us a guideline on how to make decisions. It also reminds us that we’re working with different budgets and different expenditures, and none of us need to judge how someone else makes their decisions.<\/p>\n

Not quite the fabled wisdom of Solomon, I’ll grant, but a tool nonetheless.<\/p>\n

Another simple tool is one I’ve mentioned before. \u201cDaily examen\u201d is a prayer process. It is quite simple. You center yourself, ask for God’s help, review the past 24 hours, identitfy when you felt most alive and connected with love, identity when you felt most disconnected from life and love, thank God for the best the worst and all that’s in-between, and either share that information with another person or write it down. It is entirely too easy to zombie our way through life, especially in the surreal pandemic times. But taking the time to be reflective helps us learn about life, ourselves, God, and what we value. It helps us learn what we need to change, and what we actually love about our lives as they are. This is the single best discernment tool I know, although it is most useful for BIG HUGE decisions that can be made over an extended period of time.<\/p>\n

My final \u201csimple\u201d tool is one of those deceptive ones. It is simple, in ideas, but it is much harder in practice. It is: trust God to be working in and through you. That is, notice when something feels off-kilter in you, and trust that it is significant and matters. THIS is the most subversive thing I’m saying today. Trust the wisdom of your body as being connected to the wisdom of the Divine, and when a decision brings a dull ache to your gut or any other part of your body STOP and listen. Figure out what emotions fit into that ache. Then, figure out what needs are under that emotion. (Handy-dandy helpful pdf chart here: Feelings\/Needs<\/a>). We KNOW more than we think we do, and God often works with us in subtle and embodied ways. As we learn to trust ourselves, we are learning to trust God-who-is-with-us-and-for-us.<\/p>\n

Well friends, it doesn’t feel like much, and it DEFINITELY doesn’t feel like the fabled wisdom of Solomon, but in the midst of unending difficult decisions, I hope these little tools are gifts for you. May God help us all, as we discern. Amen<\/p>\n

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1 I’m not convinced diet culture is safe nor healthy, but I left the \treference in because I fear it is familiar.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

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2 Tara Parker-Pope \u201c5 Rules to Live By During a Pandemic\u201d \thttps:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2020\/06\/09\/well\/live\/coronavirus-rules-pandemic-infection-prevention.html<\/a>\tJune 9, 2020.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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